These this or that questions for adults are about grown-up life: housework, money habits, errands, cooking, evenings, trips and paperwork. Each card is one pair, such as Pay bills early or pay on deadline. Every pair is clean.
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Run a round at the table
Read both options aloud, count hands and press a side once for each hand. The card then shows how the room split. Ask one person from the smaller side why, then press Next question.
Seven sets of grown-up habits
Topic holds Home and housework (22 pairs), Money habits (21), Errands and shopping (21), Cooking and the kitchen (21), Evenings and weekends (22), Trips and planning (21) and Appointments and paperwork (22). Money habits stays general: Smallest debt first or costliest debt first, never what anyone earns.
Tips
Hard pairs are habits people defend: Garage holds the car or garage holds the boxes.
Playing with a housemate? Guess each other's side before you vote.
Questions and answers
How is this deck different from the main this or that deck?
The main deck is the funny one: squeaky shoes or jingly pockets. These pairs are about running a household, so every adult at the table already has a side: Spices A to Z or spices by use, Unpack that night or live from the suitcase.
Are these this or that questions clean?
Yes. For adults means grown-up life, not grown-up content. No pair is about romance, drinking, bodies, politics or religion. Money pairs are about habits, never about what a player earns or owes, and no brand is named.
Which are fun this or that questions for adults at a dinner party?
Press Topic, then Evenings and weekends and Easy: Friday night in or Friday night out, Sudoku grid or logic riddle book. Three pairs before the food arrives is plenty.
One load every evening or laundry marathon on Sunday?
Open floor plan or rooms with doors?
Paint the walls yourself or hire a painter?
Rearrange the furniture or never move a chair?
Sectional sofa or pair of recliners?
Spare bedroom or craft den?
Tidy counters, chaotic closet or tidy closet, chaotic counters?
Vacuum lines showing or swept bare floors?
Wash up straightaway or soak pans overnight?
Weed the flower beds or edge the driveway?
Window cracked at night or window shut tight?
Money habits 21
Bonus goes to fun or bonus goes to savings?
Buy once, buy well or cheap and replaceable?
Cash in your wallet or card for everything?
Coin jar or round-up savings?
Coupons clipped or life is too short?
Extended warranty or take your chances?
Haggle at yard sales or pay the sticker price?
Inherited armchair or armchair you chose?
Lend it or gift it outright?
One big annual splurge or small treats all year?
Pay bills early or pay on deadline?
Pick up the tab or let them insist?
Sleep on big purchases or decide in the store?
Smallest debt first or costliest debt first?
Spreadsheet budget or envelope budget?
Store brand or famous label?
Track every dollar or monthly glance?
Vacation fund or home-repair fund?
Warehouse-club haul or corner-store top-up?
Warranty cards filed or warranty cards tossed?
Window-shop online or window-shop in person?
Errands and shopping 21
8 a.m. appointment or 4 p.m. appointment?
Audiobook on the drive or windows down, radio off?
Automatic car wash or driveway sponge scrub?
Bag your own groceries or bagger packs them?
Big cart or hand basket?
Dry cleaner regular or wash it and hope?
Errand blitz or errand trickle?
Farmers market Saturday or supermarket Sunday?
Garden center browse or stationery aisle browse?
Grocery list by aisle or wander and remember?
Grocery pickup order or walk every aisle?
Library card in use or buy the book?
Pharmacy drive-up or pharmacy counter?
Post office at noon or post office Saturday?
Pump your own gas or full-service attendant?
Return it right away or keep it and sigh?
Same barber for years or whoever is free?
Shop at opening time or shop near closing?
Shop sales for presents or make presents by hand?
Support chat window or contact form?
Totes from home or paper sacks there?
Cooking and the kitchen 21
Bake from scratch or box mix, no shame?
Big batch for days or fresh pot nightly?
Bring the main course or bring plates and ice?
Charcoal lit in January or barbecue stored till June?
Clean as you cook or one big cleanup after?
Elaborate Sunday roast or fridge-clearing Sunday soup?
Gadget for every job or three trusty tools?
Handwritten recipe cards or recipes on a screen?
Leftovers for lunch or leftovers remade tonight?
Lunch packed tonight or lunch packed at dawn?
Meal plan on Sunday or decide at five o'clock?
Measure every spoonful or eyeball the amounts?
Month-deep pantry or shop every few days?
New recipe weekly or same trusted ten?
One good knife or full knife block?
Reload the dishwasher or let it go?
Slow cooker or sheet pan?
Spices A to Z or spices by use?
Table set properly or plates on laps?
Thermos filled at home or cafe counter stop?
Wooden cutting board or plastic cutting board?
Evenings and weekends 22
Alarm on weekends or no alarm on weekends?
Coach the youth team or run the bake sale?
Dinner party for eight or dinner for two friends?
Early night or second wind at ten?
Friday night in or friday night out?
Front steps at dusk or sofa at dusk?
Garage workbench project or kitchen table project?
Garden until dark or read until dark?
Hobby class or teach yourself at home?
Housework before fun or fun before housework?
Lay out tomorrow's outfit or choose it half awake?
Monthly reading circle or weekly hiking group?
One long series or new film nightly?
Phone in another room or phone within reach?
Stretch at sunrise or stroll after supper?
Sudoku grid or logic riddle book?
Sunday reset or sunday adventure?
Tuesday restaurant table or saturday restaurant table?
Twenty-minute doze or strong cup of tea?
Voice memo or long typed message?
Week mapped in advance or week made up daily?
Your place tonight or their place tonight?
Trips and planning 21
Exit row legroom or front row, off first?
Family reunion trip or trip with old friends?
Flights booked early or flights booked late?
Guidebook and a plan or ask a local?
Guided walking tour or wander with a map?
House-sit for a friend or hire a pet sitter?
Lakeside tent pitch or country inn?
Laundry on the trip or outfits for every day?
Long weekend away or one long vacation?
Mail home a postcard or carry home a snack?
Off-season bargain or peak-season weather?
Overnight sleeper train or red-eye flight?
Passport holder or pocket and hope?
Printed packing list or toss in and zip?
Rebook a loved cottage or gamble on another?
Rent a cabin or book a hotel?
Roadside diner lunch or sandwiches packed at home?
Share the itinerary or keep it a surprise?
Small-town back roads or toll road, no detours?
Travel journal or notes on your phone?
Unpack that night or live from the suitcase?
Appointments and paperwork 22
Attend every wedding or attend a chosen few?
Attend the meeting or read the minutes?
Birthday card mailed or birthday phone call?
Checkup booked yearly or booked when reminded?
Dreaded chore at dawn or dreaded chore at dusk?
Filing cabinet or one big folder?
Fridge sticky notes or pinging reminders?
Greeting cards early or greeting cards belated?
Inbox cleared nightly or inbox ignored happily?
Instruction booklets saved or instruction booklets recycled?
Know your neighbors' names or friendly wave only?
Make the phone call or send the email?
Neighbor holds the spare or spare hidden outside?
Neighborhood cleanup day or block party committee?
Oil change on schedule or wait for the light?
Open the mail daily or open the mail weekly?
Paper planner or digital planner?
Read the manual or press buttons and see?
Renew by mail or renew at the counter?
Shred old documents or box them upstairs?
Tax papers in January or tax papers in April?
Taxes done early or taxes at the wire?
How this list was compiled
Written for this site by the editors on 2026-09-30; nothing was copied from another list. Every card is a pair of options of one to four words, so both fit on a button, and every pair is about grown-up life: housework, money habits, errands, cooking, evenings, trips and paperwork. For adults here means the subject, not the tone: no pair is about romance, drinking, bodies, health, politics or religion. Money pairs are about habits in general terms and never ask what a player earns, owes or owns. No brand, shop, film, show, song or named game appears. Levels are an editor's estimate: easy pairs are quick preferences, and hard pairs are habits people defend. The pairs were compared by script on 2026-09-30 with every other deck on this site, including the main this or that deck, the work deck, the food deck and the would you rather deck for adults: no card and no pair of options is shared, and pairs that asked the same thing in other words were replaced. Licence: own work