Valentines This or That Questions for Class and Office Parties: how it works
These valentines this or that questions are about friends, cards and candy, with no romance anywhere: 71 short pairs in 6 groups, from Monster mailbox or robot mailbox to Say thanks out loud or write thanks down. Tap a side to vote and the card shows how the room split. Every pair is printed below the deck.
Run it at a class party or a team meeting
A pair is on screen when the page opens. In a classroom, read both options aloud, have students stand for the first and stay seated for the second, then tap the counts in. At work, pass one phone around the treat table. No card asks about a crush or a partner, so nobody has to sit one out.
Six chips, from Candy and treats to Customs
Candy and treats (13 pairs) and Cards and crafts (13) cover the day itself: Shoebox mailbox or paper bag mailbox. Class and office party has 12 for whoever is planning. Friendship (12) and Kind things to do (11) work any week of the year. Customs near and far holds 10 pairs with a fact in the printed list.
Tips
Run Class and office party as a real poll a week ahead: Everyone brings a treat or one big shared cake. The count plans the party.
Start on Easy, 25 quick picks such as Pink envelope or red envelope. The Hard pairs, such as Long talk or comfortable quiet, earn a follow-up why.
Turn a Kind things to do vote into a job: whichever side wins, Sidewalk chalk hearts or sticky note hearts, the class does it by Friday.
Questions and answers
Are these Valentine's Day this or that questions right for a classroom?
Yes. The deck is about friendship, cards and treats. No card mentions dating, crushes or partners, none asks a player to pick a favorite person in the room, and treats are named without brands. Each pair was read against the site's clean-deck rule on 2026-09-19.
Do these work as valentine would you rather questions?
Yes. Say Would you rather in front of any pair and it reads the same: Would you rather get a tiny card or a giant card? That is all valentines would you rather questions are, this game with longer wording. For longer dilemmas, open the would you rather deck.
Why is there a card about Friend's Day?
Because February 14 is not about couples everywhere. In Finland the day is called ystävänpäivä, Friend's Day, and it is for remembering friends. In the Dominican Republic and El Salvador people play amigo secreto, a gift game much like Secret Santa. Each note under Customs near and far was checked against Wikipedia's Valentine's Day article on 2026-09-19.
Box of mixed chocolates or one big chocolate heart?
Caramel-filled chocolate or mint-filled chocolate?
Chocolate-covered strawberries or chocolate-covered pretzels?
Cinnamon candies or cherry candies?
Dark chocolate heart or white chocolate heart?
Eat your candy today or save it all week?
Frosted sugar cookie or crispy rice treat?
Gummy hearts or heart lollipops?
Heart-shaped cookie or heart-shaped pizza?
Pink frosting or red frosting?
Rainbow sprinkles or heart sprinkles?
Strawberry cupcake or chocolate cupcake?
Strawberry shortcake or cherry pie?
Cards and crafts 13
Animal puns or food puns?
Card in cursive or card in block letters?
Card with a pun or card with a compliment?
Googly eyes or pipe cleaners?
Monster mailbox or robot mailbox?
One design for all or a design per friend?
Origami heart or pop-up card?
Pink envelope or red envelope?
Roses are red rhyme or knock-knock joke?
Scissors and glue or markers and stamps?
Shoebox mailbox or paper bag mailbox?
Tiny card or giant card?
Write a poem or draw a picture?
Class and office party 12
Candy jar guessing game or heart beanbag toss?
Cookie decorating station or card making station?
Everyone brings a treat or one big shared cake?
Heart bingo or heart scavenger hunt?
Heart socks or heart sweater?
Heart-shaped balloons or paper heart garland?
Morning party or last-hour party?
Open cards right away or open cards at home?
Party music on or quiet party?
Pass out cards first or eat treats first?
Shared treat table or treats at each desk?
Silly photo corner or quiet craft corner?
Friendship 12
Board game with friends or walk with friends?
Friend who arrives early or friend who stays late?
Friend who plans or friend who wings it?
Help a friend move or help a friend study?
Inside joke or secret handshake?
Letter in the mail or message on a screen?
Long talk or comfortable quiet?
Matching shirts or matching bracelets?
Old friend or new friend?
Remembers your birthday or remembers your favorite snack?
Share your umbrella or share your blanket?
Throw a surprise party or plan a quiet hangout?
Kind things to do 11
Bake for a neighbor or shovel for a neighbor?
Call a grandparent or visit a grandparent?
Care home cards or fire station cookies?
Cheer a friend on or quietly pitch in?
Let someone go first or save someone a seat?
Note in a lunchbox or note on a desk?
Say thanks out loud or write thanks down?
Sidewalk chalk hearts or sticky note hearts?
Sign your kind note or leave it a mystery?
Thank the crossing guard or thank the lunch staff?
Thank-you note or thank-you high five?
Customs near and far 10
Call it Friend's Day or call it Valentine's Day?In Finland, February 14 is ystävänpäivä, which means Friend's Day: a day for remembering friends. Estonia's name for it, sõbrapäev, means the same.
Card for the teacher or card for the custodian?Count the cards children swap at school and teachers receive more valentines than anyone, by the U.S. Greeting Card Association estimate that Wikipedia reports.
Celebrate in February or celebrate in September?Colombia keeps its Love and Friendship Day, Día del amor y la amistad, on the third Saturday in September.
Conversation hearts or foil-wrapped chocolate hearts?Conversation hearts, small candies with short messages on them, are strongly tied to the day in the United States.
First flowers of spring or last snow of winter?In Slovenian folk tradition, Saint Valentine is one of the saints of spring, and plants and flowers are said to start growing on his day.
Heart-shaped box or plain box, more chocolate?Heart-shaped boxes of chocolates go back to 1868, when a British chocolate maker sold decorated ones for the day.
Paper hearts or paper doves?The heart outline, doves and a winged Cupid are the symbols the day uses now.
Paper lace card or bold cartoon card?Esther Howland of Worcester, Massachusetts, sold the first mass-produced American valentines shortly after 1847. They were made of embossed paper lace.
Secret friend gift swap or a card for everyone?In the Dominican Republic and El Salvador, people play amigo secreto, which means secret friend, a gift game much like Secret Santa.
Treat on the doorstep or treat handed to you?In Norfolk, England, a character called Jack Valentine knocks on the back door and leaves sweets and presents for children.
How this list was compiled: Written for this site by the editors; nothing was copied from another list. Every card is a pair of options of one to four words, so both fit on a button. The deck is about friendship, kindness, cards, class and office parties and treats. No card mentions dating, crushes, partners, secret admirers or anyone's love life, and no card asks a player to name a favorite person in the room. Candy and treats are named generically, with no brand or product names. Each pair was read against the site's family-safe rule (nothing sexual, no alcohol or drugs, no self-harm, no dares, nothing illegal, no real living people, no put-downs), and the whole list was run through a word blocklist and a brand-name list on 2026-09-19 and came back clean. Every pair was compared by script on 2026-09-19 with every other deck on this site, including data/this-or-that-questions.json, data/this-or-that-generator.json, the other this or that decks and every would you rather deck: no pair appears in any of them. The editors also read the deck beside data/valentines-day-icebreaker-questions.json and dropped pairs that repeated one of its questions. No card has a right answer, and Easy, Medium and Hard are an editor's judgment. The ten cards in Customs near and far each carry a one-line note in the printed list. Every note was checked on 2026-09-19 against https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Valentine%27s_Day, read section by section: Estonia and Finland (ystävänpäivä and sõbrapäev both mean Friend's Day), Latin America (amigo secreto in the Dominican Republic and El Salvador), Colombia (the third Saturday in September), Modern times (Esther Howland of Worcester, Massachusetts, shortly after 1847, embossed paper lace; heart-shaped boxes of chocolates in 1868; the U.S. Greeting Card Association estimate under which teachers receive the most valentines once school cards are counted), Folk traditions (Jack Valentine in Norfolk; Saint Valentine as a saint of spring in Slovenia), and the article's lines on conversation hearts and on the heart outline, doves and the winged Cupid as today's symbols. The notes are our own summaries, not quotations. The one person named, Esther Howland, died in 1904. Left out because the article does not cover them: Galentine's Day and any count of cards swapped per classroom. Licence: own work