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Questions to Ask Your Daughter

Questions a mom or dad asks a daughter at five, at eleven, at sixteen and grown, each with a follow-up.

Questions to Ask Your Daughter

If our family were a band, who plays what, and what are we called?

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What is the band's one hit?

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Young daughters, ages 4 to 8 20

  • What are you the best at in our whole family? Follow-up: Who comes second?
  • What did you make this week that you want to keep? Follow-up: Where shall we keep it?
  • What do you want to be able to do all by yourself soon? Follow-up: How can I help without doing it for you?
  • What do you want to know about when I was a little kid? Follow-up: What do you guess I was like back then?
  • What do you wonder about when you are supposed to be falling asleep? Follow-up: Shall we look for the answer tomorrow?
  • What is hard about being your age? Follow-up: And what is the nicest part of being your age?
  • What is your favorite thing I cook, and what would you add to it? Follow-up: Would you like to do the stirring next time?
  • What rule at home would you change if you were the mom or the dad? Follow-up: Which rule would you keep just as it is?
  • What should I know about your best friend? Follow-up: What do you two like to play?
  • What should we make out of a cardboard box this weekend? Follow-up: Who gets to sit in it first?
  • What would you build if the whole living room were yours for a day? Follow-up: Where would I be allowed to sit?
  • What would you like the two of us to do on Saturday? Follow-up: What should we pack for it?
  • What would you name a boat, a horse and a shop if you had one of each? Follow-up: Which of the three would you take me to first?
  • What would you pack in my lunch if you packed it? Follow-up: What goes in as the surprise?
  • What would you teach me if you were my teacher for a day? Follow-up: What would my homework be?
  • When do you feel most like a big girl? Follow-up: And when is it nice to be little?
  • Which book should we read again tonight, and which voice should I do? Follow-up: Who gets to turn the pages tonight?
  • Which job in our house are you ready to be in charge of? Follow-up: What will your job title be?
  • Which of your toys has the most to say, and what does it say? Follow-up: What does that toy say about me?
  • Who was kind to you this week, and what did they do? Follow-up: What kind thing could you do for them in return?

Tween daughters, ages 9 to 12 20

  • What are you into right now that I know nothing about? Follow-up: Where should I start if I want to catch up?
  • What are you working on getting better at? Follow-up: How will you know when you have got there?
  • What do I keep getting wrong about your friends? Follow-up: Which friend should I ask you about first?
  • What do I know how to do that you would like to learn this year? Follow-up: What will you teach me in return?
  • What do I still do for you that you could take over? Follow-up: What do you want me to keep on doing?
  • What do you and your friends laugh about most? Follow-up: Would I get the joke if you told me?
  • What do you like to do alone, with nobody watching? Follow-up: How long could you happily keep at it?
  • What do you manage on your own now that used to need me? Follow-up: Who was the first to notice?
  • What do you think you will remember about this year? Follow-up: What would you rather forget about it?
  • What have you changed your mind about lately? Follow-up: What tipped you over to the new view?
  • What have you learned this year about picking friends? Follow-up: Who showed you that without meaning to?
  • What is hardest to explain to a grown-up about being eleven or twelve? Follow-up: Which grown-up comes closest to getting it?
  • What should we start doing together now that you are older? Follow-up: When shall we do it the first time?
  • What were you proud of lately that nobody made a fuss about? Follow-up: Shall we make the fuss now?
  • What would you like more say in at home? Follow-up: What would you do with more say?
  • What would you put in a room that was yours alone to design? Follow-up: What sign goes on the door?
  • What would your perfect afternoon with me look like? Follow-up: What am I not allowed to do during it?
  • Which of our family rules makes sense to you, and which does not? Follow-up: How would you rewrite the one that does not?
  • Who do you look up to, and what is it about them? Follow-up: What would you ask them if you could?
  • Who in your class would you like to know better, and what stops you? Follow-up: What could you say to them on Monday?

Teenage daughters 20

  • What advice of mine turned out to be wrong for you? Follow-up: What did you do instead of taking it?
  • What are people your age unfairly blamed for? Follow-up: What do they deserve credit for?
  • What are you proud of that has nothing to do with grades? Follow-up: Who else knows you are proud of it?
  • What could you talk to me about for an hour, if I kept quiet? Follow-up: And what should I stop asking about?
  • What do I get right as your parent? Follow-up: What should I do more of?
  • What do I get wrong about your life without meaning to? Follow-up: How could I find out better next time?
  • What do we do as a family that your friends find odd? Follow-up: Do you defend us or agree with your friends?
  • What do you and I have in common that you have only lately noticed? Follow-up: Is that good news or bad?
  • What do you think you are better at than I was at your age? Follow-up: What do you guess I was better at?
  • What do you want the next two years to hold? Follow-up: What worries you about those two years?
  • What have you handled lately that showed you could handle more? Follow-up: What should come next, then?
  • What is taking up most of your head this month? Follow-up: Do you want advice, or only an ear?
  • What kind of week has it been, in three words? Follow-up: Which of the three words needs explaining?
  • What should I know about you now that was not true a year ago? Follow-up: When did that become true?
  • What would you like to decide for yourself that we still decide for you? Follow-up: How would you show us you are ready for it?
  • What would you plan if you had the house to yourself for a whole Saturday? Follow-up: What would I find when I got home?
  • When did you last feel really listened to? Follow-up: What did the listener do that worked?
  • Where do you feel most at ease: which room, place or group? Follow-up: What makes it easy to be there?
  • Which of your friends would you like me to know better? Follow-up: What would that friend and I get along about?
  • Which woman, in the family or outside it, do you admire, and why? Follow-up: What have you borrowed from her?

Grown daughters 20

  • How do you like to be helped, now that you run your own life? Follow-up: When should I simply listen?
  • What are you good at now that I never saw coming? Follow-up: When did you start being good at it?
  • What did I get right when you were growing up? Follow-up: What did that give you?
  • What did you understand about me only after you were grown? Follow-up: What made it click?
  • What do you need from me in this season of your life? Follow-up: What do you no longer need from me?
  • What do you remember about the two of us that I may have forgotten? Follow-up: Where were we at the time?
  • What do you want us to do together that we have not done since you were small? Follow-up: When shall we do it again?
  • What do you wish I had done differently? Follow-up: What would it have changed for you?
  • What does home mean to you these days? Follow-up: Where does home start, for you?
  • What from our home did you carry into your own? Follow-up: What did you leave behind on purpose?
  • What have you put on your walls, and why those things? Follow-up: Which of them came from home?
  • What is coming up for you that I could turn up for? Follow-up: What should I bring when I come?
  • What should I stop worrying about on your behalf? Follow-up: What may I keep worrying about?
  • What was I doing at the age you are now, as far as you know? Follow-up: What do you guess was different for me?
  • What would you like the next ten years to look like, you and me? Follow-up: What should we put on the calendar first?
  • Which decision of yours did I doubt, and you were right? Follow-up: When did you know you had been right?
  • Which family story do you want to make sure is passed on? Follow-up: Who should hear that story next?
  • Which of my sayings have you caught yourself repeating? Follow-up: Who did you say it to?
  • Which recipe, skill or trick of mine would you like to learn properly? Follow-up: When can we set aside an afternoon for it?
  • Who has become important to you that I should know better? Follow-up: What should I ask that person about?

Crazy questions for a teen 20

  • If our family were a band, who plays what, and what are we called? Follow-up: What is the band's one hit?
  • If our house had a secret passage, where would it start and end? Follow-up: Who is not allowed to know about it?
  • If you ran this house for a week, what are the first three laws? Follow-up: Who breaks one of your laws first?
  • What food combination do you defend that everyone else finds wrong? Follow-up: Who have you won over to it?
  • What headline would the local paper print about your week? Follow-up: What is the photo beside the headline?
  • What is the worst possible name for a pet goldfish? Follow-up: Who would have to shout that name across a park?
  • What small thing would you make illegal? Follow-up: What is the punishment for it?
  • What would a guided tour of your bedroom point out first? Follow-up: What is roped off from the visitors?
  • What would a robot built by you flatly refuse to do? Follow-up: What would you name that robot?
  • What would our family's coat of arms have on it? Follow-up: What is the motto underneath?
  • What would the neighbors say our family's theme tune is? Follow-up: Who in the family sings it worst?
  • What would the weather forecast for your mood say today? Follow-up: And the forecast for mine?
  • What would you ask our pet or a houseplant if it could answer once? Follow-up: What would it ask you back?
  • What would you do first if you woke up as me for a day? Follow-up: What would you cancel from my day?
  • What would you do with a school day the whole town forgot about? Follow-up: Who would you bring along for it?
  • What would you do with a spare hour that nobody else got? Follow-up: Would you tell anyone about the hour?
  • What would you put on a billboard outside your school? Follow-up: How long before the billboard came down?
  • Which kitchen appliance has the worst attitude, and what does it mutter? Follow-up: What would it say about our house?
  • Which three objects would you grab to prove you are you? Follow-up: Which object would I pick for you?
  • Which year of history would you visit for one afternoon? Follow-up: What would you bring back from that year?

How it works

These questions to ask your daughter are sorted by her age: young daughters, tweens, teenagers and grown daughters, with a set of crazy questions for a teen. Each is worded for a mom or dad to say aloud.

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Questions by her age

Young daughters, ages 4 to 8 asks about play and home: What would you teach me if you were my teacher for a day? Tween daughters, ages 9 to 12 hands her more say: What do I still do for you that you could take over? Grown daughters looks back and ahead: What did I get right when you were growing up?

Awesome and crazy questions to ask your teen daughter

Teenage daughters holds the questions that show you are listening: What is taking up most of your head this month? Its follow-up asks Do you want advice, or only an ear? Crazy questions for a teen is for the car: If our family were a band, who plays what, and what are we called?

  • No card asks about her looks, her weight, her grades or who she is dating, so none needs skipping in front of her friends.
  • The Hard cards, such as What do you wish I had done differently?, are for a quiet hour, not a full table.

Questions and answers

What are fun questions to ask your daughter?

Ones with no right answer: What would you name a boat, a horse and a shop if you had one of each? What headline would the local paper print about your week? The crazy set is worded for a teen and suits a tween too.

What are 10 questions to ask your daughter?

One round here is twelve cards. Three to start: What would you like the two of us to do on Saturday? What are you into right now that I know nothing about? What kind of week has it been, in three words?

What questions can I ask my adult daughter?

Ask about her life as it is now and about the two of you: How do you like to be helped, now that you run your own life? Which of my sayings have you caught yourself repeating? Grown daughters has twenty.

What do I ask a teen daughter who answers in one word?

Something only she can rate: What do you think you are better at than I was at your age? What could you talk to me about for an hour, if I kept quiet? When one word comes back, the follow-up asks again.

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